Other Philosophy Articles by Dr. Joe

If You Think You’re Unattractive, You’re Wrong!

Insecurity

Making, Keeping, and Sustaining Resolutions

Holiday Blues

What is Self-Coaching

The Self-Coaching Philosophy If You Think You’re Unattractive, You’re Wrong! It may surprise you to find out that what you see in the mirror—your body image—has very little to do with your actual physical attributes. Read Entire Article . . . Insecurity Most people confuse vulnerability with insecurity. The difference is simple but crucial. For starters, vulnerability is a fact of life, insecurity isnít. Read Entire Article . . . Making, Keeping, and Sustaining Resolutions Why is embracing and sustaining effort so difficult--especially when your objectives make so much sense? Read Entire Article . . . Holiday Blues Avoid unrealistic expectations--no holiday hype! Donít pressure yourself. Leave the Yule-log-image of the holidays to Hall Mark or Hollywood... Read Entire Article . . . What is Self-Coaching Aside from being a motivational, coaching approach, Self-Coaching reduces all conflict (especially anxiety, panic, and depression) to two words: habit and control. This is the core of my program and what makes it stand apart from other methods (coaching or psychological). Read Entire Article . . . Are You a Prisoner of Control? Control narrows your field of view and leaves you convinced that the world is a place with few choices, a place where you're a prisoner--confined and helpless Read Entire Article . . . Controlling Life Isn't the Answer, It's the Problem! When, because of insecurity, your life is driven by control, you become susceptible to depression, anxiety, hostility, or ineffectiveness. Read Entire Article . . . Be Reckless, Risk Trusting Yourself! Granted, self-trust may seem like risky businessóperhaps even reckless at first--especially if control, in the form of worry, rumination, over-thinking, rigidity or being overly cautious, has been dictating the course of your life (and distorting your perceptions). Read Entire Article . . . How to Stop Anxiety and Depression Once you begin to get caught up in a spiral of worry, fear, rumination, or insecurity, things only seem to get worse over time. Read Entire Article . . . Worriers Are Over-Thinkers and Self-Hypnotists Ever notice how silly someone else's worry seems to you? How many times have you told someone to stop making mountains out of molehills? Unfortunately, if worry has become your reflex, mountain-making is what you do best. And when you're making mountains, the strangest things can seem very real. Insecurity is, first and foremost, opportunistic. Give it an opening and it will take you for a ride. Read Entire Article . . . The Serenity Mantra: Three Great Reasons for Learning to Let Go Whenever youíre confronted with a problem, concern, or worry and need to let go, repeat these three simple truths. They will put you in the right frame of mind for dealing with any struggle. I suggest you write them down on the back of a business card. Whenever you find your mind spinning with reflexive, insecure thinking, read the truths. If necessary, read them over and over again, mantra like. Read Entire Article . . . Insecurity Self-Quiz Today you are the sum total of the habits of your life. When you look at your life frozen in the moment, youíre not just looking at a here-and-now snapshot, youíre also looking at the culmination of everything that preceded you. The ups and downs of your life, the illnesses, separations, traumas, surprises, successes, failures, and accidents, all add up to yield you, the person youíve become. Read Entire Article . . . Choosing the Life You Want Imagine growing up in a protected courtyard enclosed on all sides by twenty-foot-high stone walls. Let us also imagine that from birth, you never ventured beyond your four walls. Your only perceptions would be your walls; the sky above; the rhythmic transits of the sun, moon, and stars; occasionally some rain or snow; visitations from a few curious local birds; Read Entire Article . . .