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tone4862 07-24-2017 02:32 AM

How do I move on?
Dr Joe,
I am in the process of waiting for a hip replacement. Due to the constant pain I find myself withdrawing from outside activities and basically spend my day watching TV or playing on the computer. There is a church luncheon next Tue. and I don't plan to go but I'm so bored I feel I should go. How do I break this cycle of not wanting to participate? I could get through the pain for such an event but can't make myself get out and get on with my life. I read something today that said this is your minds way of coping with the pain avoiding everything. Is it as simple as that?

Dr. Joe. 07-25-2017 04:54 PM

Living with pain
We humans are instinctually wired to avoid pain. When, however, the pain is unavoidable, you are faced with a significant dilemma. This is where you need to scrutinize your intentions. If you are determined to get out and participate more in social gatherings, then you need to be realistic about whether your inertia is a result of avoidance or pain management (both of which may be true). This of course is a matter of relativity. If the pain is significant enough, you body is only trying to protect itself from further damage, in which case, it makes sense not to push too hard or to suffer needlessly. Perhaps you can use a wheelchair to assist you.

Essentially, your problem isn't a neurotic one, it's a real life challenge and you need to try your best to not allow yourself the become short-sighted and depressed by your current circumstances. Choose to see the life that awaits you after the hip surgery.

I do wish you well,
Dr. Joe
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tone4862 08-01-2017 02:48 AM

How do I move on.
Thank you for your reply. It was encouraging. I will try to look forward to life after my hip replacement!

Dr. Joe. 08-01-2017 01:31 PM

You're quite welcome. I do wish you the very best with your surgery and recovery.

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